Wednesday, October 28, 2015

MY HAND BAG DRAMA - LIFE LESSONS


So the other day I was so excited when I arrived at Southgate station enroute to my dad's house. It brought back so many fond memories of raising our children there. I formed a lot of deep relationships in Southgate with great memories. As we got out of the station and waited for my brother inlaw to pick us up, I started to film the area with my phone. A Jehovah witness was nearby and saw me and said 'You have a nice smile' and I said " Thank you" but continued filming because I wasnt interested in what he had to say. 

He went back to his spot. My brother inlaw soon arrived and we excitedly made our way to his car. I asked my daughter if she wanted to put her bag in the boot and she said "no thanks" she will carry it. So we made our way to my dad's house who lives about 40 minutes away. Got to my dads house brought everything out of the car but noticed my bag wasnt there. Immediately I realised that my bag with all my cash and shopping money was left on the bench that I had been sitting on outside Southgate station. I forgot it. You can imagine my thoughts. My holiday was over. I was in panic. I couldnt think. I screamed. I cried. I said, "I am in London but why does this feel like a Naija movie?

My brother inlaw decided to go back to the spot and see if the bag was there. I wasnt hopeful at all. Hmmmm a designer bag with lots of money in it. No way. He left and went.
I phoned my best friend Ngozi, who told me to trust God and pray and that I should call her when I find my bag. In that whole process I was confused and wondered how on the earth I could have done a such a thing. I mean a bag is something that is attached to a woman's hip. I began to pray and pray and pray. I kept ringing my inlaw but at one stage he stopped answering his phone. I waited for over an hour to get a response.

That guy that saw me at the station saw the bag and tried to hand it in at the station. They wouldnt take it because they said it was found outside the station. His name is Michael. He looked in my bag and saw my business card which had my UK address and began to make his way to my former business address but I wasnt there. To cut a long story short, another Jehovah witness escorted my brother inlaw to Micheal's house and he gave him back my bag and not a penny was missing. My drama ended and I was able to enjoy the rest of the day with my family. I found Michael recently and really thanked him for returning the missing bag.

There are still some really good people in this world and prayer really works. To God be the glory.

Life lessons

·       Dont write people off. They may be your guardian angels
·       Be careful with your belongings especially when carrying a lot of cash 
·       Pray at all times and trust God
·       Always appreciate others
·       Have integrity especially when no one is looking 



Thursday, October 15, 2015

REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM

A message for my readers! Take 100% responsibility for your actions and you will cease to be a victim. You will gain stronger confidence and freedom. Ultimately you will know that the choices you make are yours. You will avoid blaming others but rather see mistakes as lessons learned.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

GET OFF CLEARANCE RACK



Hi Girls, I saw this and thought to share with you because you are very valuable. 

''We allow people to treat us at the level that we think we're worth. If you don't think much of yourself, you'll likely accept sub-par treatment. Raise your asking price. Raise your standards. Don't sit in the broken-isle. Don't accept the lie that you're damaged goods. Learn to embrace your imperfections and see the truth of who you are. YOU deserve to be honored, respected, valued and cherished by yourself and others. YOU name your own price. YOU control what you put up with. You cheapen yourself every time you allow another person to discount you. Get off the clearance rack!!!'' J Ryan


Tuesday, October 13, 2015

WORDS DO HURT



I remember a season when someone close said something that cut me deeply. I tried to pretend that it didnt hurt because I recalled the poem which says ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me’. Who was I kidding? It nearly broke me.

It's all in the past now and these days, with a group of women, I am passionate about raising confident girls and giving them tools to face the bullies, stand up for themselves and be confident in who they are.

Here are some points to note

Be careful what you say to others and only say what is beneficial. Not every thought has to come out of your mouth. You can hold back.

It takes years to build a relationship but a split second to destroy it by what you say to others.

If you have said something hurtful apologize and really mean it.

People will forget what you said, people what you did but they will never forget how you made them feel. (Maya Angelou)



Sunday, October 11, 2015

INTERNATIONAL DAY OF THE GIRL




On this International day of the girl child, I would like to remind girls that they are valuable. The nuggets below are a reminder on how to find your value.

Recognize Your Value
How can you know your value if you don’t recognize that you are valuable? That is the question. In order to feel valuable you have to recognize who you are. As a Christian, I recognize that my value is from God who tells me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I recognise that I made in HIS image. I am assured that I am of inestimable value. In fact if you were to price my value, I am simply priceless.

Accept Your Value
When you recognize your value then the next journey is full acceptance of who you are. So that includes accepting your strengths as well as your weakness. When you accept your value you can work on your flaws. What I have come to realize on my journey to accepting my value is that we all have hang ups. There isn’t a person, on this earth that doesn’t feel insecure sometimes. Even if they look like that have it all together, trust me they struggle in some areas but they just focus on their strengths not weaknesses.

Increase Your Value
Once you accept your value then you can start to increase your value. You can increase your value by dedicating your life to doing your best and being excellent. Invest in yourself.  Learn a new skill, read more and give more.  You can also increase your value by improving on the skills that you lack. So for example you may want to be a public speaker so you start reading around and practicing everything you can on public speaking. Sooner or later your increased value and posture will start attracting people your way who will offer you opportunities.

Believe Your Value
When you have recognized your value, accepted your value and increased your value, then you have to believe in your value. You have to believe with all your heart and with your entire mind and with all your soul that are indeed valuable.

The different between accepting your value and believing your value, is that once you believe in your value, you start walking in the power of your belief which includes taking action. You will also present yourself like a person who is valuable by improving your posture, mannerism and attitude.


It’s not enough to find your value and keep it all to yourself. Once you are there, you should dedicate your life to making others feel valuable too. That way everyone benefits. 

Happy International Day of the Girl

Monday, October 5, 2015

Post Birthday thoughts on Love


Yesterday I shared my birthday with three remarkable women namely Caroline, Blessing and Moji. There was an outpouring of love across the globe for our birthdays and it reminded me of God's word which says Love one another - John 13-34

I have learned a lot about love through the years and I am just going to go ahead and brain storm my thoughts.

1. Love shouldn't hurt 
2. Love never controls
3. Love is free
4. Love is pure
5. Love is real
6. Love is happy
7. Love takes time to grow
8. Love shouldnt make you depressed
9. Love is reciprocated
10. Love is a free gift from God 
11. Love is a reflection of God in you
12. Love makes others happy
13. Love is not proud
14. Love forgives 
15. Love is the greatest gift of them all

What is love to you?