ARROGANCE IS NOT PRETTY

My wish is that every girl that reads this article comes to a true appreciation of herself. My hope is that she will be confident and know that she is very valuable. However, I want girls to know the difference between being confident and being arrogant, because there is a very thin line.

Confidence Verses Arrogance

Confidence means you believe in yourself and your abilities. Arrogance means you put on an offensive display of superiority or self importance or an overbearing show of pride. Both confident and arrogant girls appear outwardly confident but there are signs that set an arrogant girl apart.

An arrogant girl has a very superior sense of self. She feels she is better than everyone. She will be very selective with choosing her friends. She only selects the ones that meet her standards. Some girls who are arrogant may choose not to have any friends thinking that they are just far too special. 

Examples of Arrogant Behaviour

Janet was that type of girl. She was an only child and spoiled by her parents so she had a lot of things others girls didn’t have. She would tease girls who came from lower income homes and she did not want to associate with girls who did not appear rich. Unfortunately, something tragic happened in her family which made her realise that no condition is permanent. She changed her ways and stopped being arrogant.

An arrogant girl carries herself in such a way that she believes she is untouchable. She may appear stuck up and not very friendly. If she is complimented rather than say thank you, she will reply, “I know I am pretty”. Temi’s aunty noticed she was developing this bad trait and immediately brought it up with her mother who hadn’t noticed. Temi was immediately sent to an Etiquette training school to learn some good old fashion manners.

An arrogant girl will rarely apologize for doing anything wrong. She has no faults as far as she is concerned. Everybody is wrong and she is always right. Nneka was such a girl. It was her way or the high way. She kept swapping and changing friends because she just would not listen to anybody. She asked her parents to change school but her problems followed her. Nneka was the one that had a problem with her attitude.

Real Reason for Arrogance 

An arrogant person is often the leader of the bullies and they are always demanding attention.

The real reason that some girls act in an arrogant way is to hide their real feelings of inferiority. Sometimes a girl who tries to give the impression that she is too much is hiding some kind of vulnerability that she is suffering from.

Confident girls don’t have to cause unnecessary attention or drama.  They attract attention, simply by who they are. Arrogance, is a form of insecurity. It is not a trait that a valuable girl should seek. A valuable girl should always be confident. 

Note to Parents! It is never too late for us to guide our daughters in the right way, as long as they are under our care. If we guide them early it will save a lot of heartache for when they are older because nobody really likes to be around an arrogant person.