ARE YOU PASSIVE? LETS KICK IT OUT TODAY?

We have not been given a spirit of fear but of power and sound mind, yet many girls don’t believe this for themselves. They don’t stand up and they don’t stand out. They are passive.  A valuable girl should never be passive rather she should stand up and be confident. Listed below are the ways a girl shows herself to be passive and what she can do about it.

AFRAID TO SPEAK UP

The biggest challenge for a passive girl is her inability to stand up for herself and her rights. She misses so many opportunities because she does not stand up. Rather she will allow others to get their way and use her.  Shade was one of these girls. In primary school she was very assertive but when she got to secondary school, she met a group of mean girls and became passive. She soon feel victim to their bullying.

SPEAKS QUIETLY OR SOFTLY

A passive girl does not speak loud enough. She has a soft apologetic tone. She speaks in a low voice because she feels that her opinions don’t count. So rather than be heard properly she speaks under her breath. A girl should speak up on matters that count. She should learn to open her mouth and speak with boldness.

SHOWS LITTLE OR NO EXPRESSION

When you are confident and excited it shows on your face and in your body language. You are happy and full of life. A passive girl shows no expression at all. She is neither happy nor sad rather she is expressionless. In my opinion, she is not living a happy life. She is just a passive observer and missing out on so many opportunities.

ISOLATES HERSELF FROM GROUPS

Unfortunately there are a few girls that have such low self esteem that they isolate themselves from everyone. They have very few friends and they dare not join a group just in case others see how inferior they feel. A passive girl fits this bill. She always chooses to be on her own, not because she enjoys her own company, but because she just doesn’t feel good enough. When she is in a group, she will not give her opinion. All she does is agrees with the group.

VALUES SELF LESS THAN OTHERS

A passive doesn’t value herself. She runs around doing things for others. Seeking approval but never takes care of herself. Titi was such a girl. She came from a broken home and witnessed a lot of violence so she grew up, always wanting to please others and not herself. Luckily for her, she found a mentor that really cared about her wellbeing and helped Titi to change her mindset. Titi was taught to see herself as valuable.

So we can see that there is always light at the end of the tunnel, even if you are passive. You just have to believe in yourself and believe that you are equally as valuable as the next girl.

If you have traits of being passive, why not start today by stating this “I AM SOMEBODY”. Say it ten times today and every day for 7 days. Say it like you mean it.  And I can guarantee you, by next week you will feel like SOMEBODY because you are SOMEBODY and because your words carry power.

Note to parents and guardians

It is our responsibility to encourage our girls, especially the ones that have a passive trait. There is nothing wrong with having a quiet nature but when a girl cannot speak up for herself then it becomes a challenge. We need to encourage girls to speak up and say what’s on their mind because they are worth it.