ALL SHE WANTS FOR CHRISTMAS IS TO BE ASSERTIVE

In the last few articles I wrote about the aggressive girl and the passive girl. These are both negative character traits that valuable girls should not display. Ideally every girl who knows her value should be assertive and in this article I will show you how.

SHE SPEAKS OPENLY

An assertive girl speaks openly. She does not have any secrets that are dangerous for her well-being. If anything happens that she is not sure of, she will speak up and ask questions. However, she never interrupts others to get her point across, neither is she afraid to say what is on her mind. She is assertive. Temi is an assertive girl. One of her male teachers tried to make a pass at her. She immediately told him to stop it and if he tried again she would report him to the principal. He did not ever try to touch her gain.

USES A CONVERSATIONAL TONE

An assertive girl uses a tone that commands respect. Her voice tone is neither loud nor quiet but when she is in a room she speaks with a tone that demands respect and attention. Jade is that type of girl. She was in a conversation with two other girls in her sports team who were trying to bully her. She stood up and told them she was not taking any nonsense. They did not attempt to bully Jade again.

SHE'S RELAXED AND OPEN

An assertive girl is so relaxed and open. She has nothing to hide. She is not cagey. She speaks when she thinks it is necessary to speak without feeling weary. She participates in group discussions and is not afraid to voice her opinion in a respectful way. When she speaks she keeps to the point and does not dominate the conversation.

SHE VALUES HERSELF

An assertive girl values herself and knows that she is equal to everyone. From as early as she can remember, she was always taught to respect others but to know that she is just as valuable as anyone else, no matter their status or background. She will not compromise on her values just to please others and she always speaks up when the need arises.

REACHES HER GOALS WITHOUT HURTING OTHERS

An assertive girl will reach her goal without hurting or using others to achieve it. She believes in justice and is appalled by bad behaviour. It is not possible to use and abuse an assertive girl because she knows who she is and cannot be manipulated.

BECOME ASSERTIVE

If you are struggling with being assertive, it is possible to achieve it. You just have to believe that you are a worthwhile person who demands respect. You should remind yourself daily that you are valuable. Learn to say NO. You should always stand up for yourself on matters that you are passionate about or are dangerous to your well being. You will be happier when you do so.

Note to parents and guardians

We need to encourage our daughters to be frank and open. We should not tell them to be quiet when they want to express themselves.  We should teach them to always speak up and not to keep secrets.