MAKE SURE HE LOVES YOU MORE

I was watching a recent interview of Rihanna on Oprah. She mentioned that her grandma had passed away (RIP) but one of the advises her grandma gave her was to marry a man who loves her more and really dotes on her. As they say in Naija (I go die love). Her grandma said that women are naturally more nurturing and caring and if you find a man who has those natural characteristics then you will enjoy your marriage more.

I agree with Rihanna’s grandmother. I want my daughter to marry a God fearing man, who loves her to bits, just like her daddy loves me. If she finds such a man, she will not find it difficult to submit and she will have a peaceful marriage. 

Jacqueline Ali, the founder of Women Empowering Women reminded me that the bible says that men should love their wives as Christ loves the church. No where did it instruct women to love their husbands. We were instructed to submit to them. However when a man loves God first, he will love himself and lay down his life for his wife.

I know some women are strong on doing everything for the man,  paying for everything and treating him like a helpless child.  I say kudos to you but I am old fashioned, so if my daughter’s future husband wants to lead, then he should go ahead, because he is the head of the home. She should just make sure she caters to him and serves him because most men like service as a love language. I would also advise her to never neglect her career and have something that gives her purpose.

I was told by several women including my mom on my hen night over 16 years ago, to start as you mean to finish. They warned me to not be a super woman and I took note. ''Otherwise'' they said, ''You will be the one running up and down trying to keep your home, while your husband is relaxing. And you will age faster than him''.

In the long run, everything can be found in God's Word. He who finds a wife, finds a good thing. Not someone to abuse and mistreat. He who loves his wife, loves himself.  

We as mothers and fathers with boys, have a responsibility to raise responsible sons, who will have uttermost respect for their wives, so that indeed they can love their wives as Christ loves the church. So help us God.