VALUABLE AFFIRMATIONS

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How To Be A Great Communicator

Communication is a struggle for many people. This is because they do not communicate effectively. Communication is a very important skill to learn in life. If you pick the skill early, then you will probably be successful at most things. This will also lead to an increase in self confidence. Below are a few tips that can help you with communication.

Be Clear

When communicating with others, they need to understand you. So your message should be clear. Don’t write too many words at once.

Ngozi had a problem with being clear. She loved telling stories to her friends but because she was not clear in her communication, they would switch off. Ngozi began to read a lot more and this helped her with communication.

Be Concise

One of the reason’s Ngozi friends switched off was because she was always going off point in a discussion.  They would be having an interesting conversation about a shop they visited and Ngozi would change the topic to something completely different like her grandma coming from the village. This frustrated her friends.

Be Concrete

In order to communicate effectively, you need to stay focused on the subject at hand. Have a clear picture about what you want to discuss. If you master the skill of staying focused, you are half way to becoming an effective communicator. Debbie was an effective communicator. She represented her school as a speaker for national debates. The reason she was so good was because her command of the spoken word was so solid and she kept her audience engaged.

Be Correct

Always check communication for spellings or grammar errors. Spell check does not always capture everything.  If it is a very important document like a job application, then get a friend to check it over for you. Don’t be in a hurry to hand it in. Make sure you double check it.

Be Consistent

Make sure your communication is consistent and logical. That means it flows from one point to the next.  Always begin with the most important point. Don’t surprise your audience with inconsistent information.

Be Complete

When communicating, your conversation or writing should have a start, middle and finish. Don’t intentionally leave out the end of the conversation otherwise it wont be complete. It may also leave the audience confused. If you are arranging a party for your friends then they need to have details such as date, time and venue. If you make a statement, end it.

Be Courteous

It is very important to be polite in communication. Always say please and thank you, even when writing. Do not be rude.  Rather be friendly and courteous. Remember people never remember what you say or do but they always remember how you make them feel.

As a valuable lady or girl, if you follow these tips you will have better communication skills and increased confidence.

GIRL ADVICE 101 FROM MUMS ON FACEBOOK

Raising Confident Girls facebook page is a growing movement by mums, aunties, grandmas, god mothers or any woman who wants to raise confident girls. Founded by Rita Okoye, CEO of Majestically Rare, she wanted to engage with other women to find solutions to the growing problems of Raising Confident Girls in the 21^st century. Today we have over 700 members in the group called Raising Confident Girls and we discuss every topic imaginable for girls.

Ladi Di one of the administrators and regular contributors, posted a quote which asked “What advice do you want to give young girls?” and the response was overwhelming.

If you are a young girl, please take your time to read the advice below, given by several women in this group across the globe, as I believe it will help YOU.

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Girls, YOU are the one in control of what you do, no one else is. So quit saying, "She/he made me do it" - even if they are older than you.

Be proud of who you are. Never settle for less. You are uniquely and wonderfully made.

Never accept that the next person is more blessed than you are. Look for the hidden potentials within you.

Don’t be in a hurry to grow up. Time flies.

Who you are is inside you. Stop looking outside for you, but begin to live #fromtheinsideout

Believe in success, work towards being successful and you will surely succeed.

Before you embark on any relationship with anybody, you must first of all have one with Jesus Christ.

Believe in yourself anything is possible.

Don't compare yourself with anyone else because God made everyone special in their own way. 

Being beautiful is nice. It’s better to be beautiful on the inside because that's the beauty that lasts.

Be careful about your friends. Don’t have too many, be careful what you share with them and stay away from haters and unserious ones.

For every action there is a consequence and the consequence is either good or bad.

It’s up to you to make the right decision. I say even if you think no one is watching... God sees all.

Take time to know yourself; really know yourself. 

Know that you are Divine reflection of God's Beauty and treasure yourself.

Do not allow others to validate you, define you. You are constantly evolving and growing.

Life may not always be a bed of roses but YOU are the flower in the soil.

Take care of yourself feed your mind, body Spirit and Soul.

If something doesn't feel right listen to it. Don't be pressured by anybody or anything.

Through the storm always comes a rainbow; be that rainbow to others too.

Be yourself, totally confident in your own skin.

Hold your ground, don't be afraid to make mistake but be ready to take correction and learn from others mistakes as well.

To improve yourself, read, seek knowledge, and acquire skills, be self sufficient. 

Be humble, do to others what is right.

Trust in God, know that he loves you He is holding your hand and there is absolutely nothing impossible with him.

And whatever size, shape or form your star is LET IT SHINE!

Enjoy growing up, love yourself. You are special. God believes in you.

Be confident in yourself! God made only "one" of you! Never settle for less than what God's word says about you.

Pray hard and seek Godly counsel before you make decisions, no matter how small.

Most of all LOVE YOURSELF just the way you are because you are the Apple of His eyes and He has put a lot of treasure in you! Your happiness lies in Him not someone else.

Dont let anyone say you cant. You can do mighty things over and beyond your wildest dream.

Take care of your body because it is the temple of God, respect it by not abusing it with alcohol, drugs or any illegal substance.

Ensure you only mix with people that will respect the love and respect you have for your body.

Never allow any body to violate you. Your body is very precious and should be treated with care.

Your soul is also very important so take good care of your soul and nourish it with words, pictures, films and material that will edifying and enrich your spirit.

Pornography kills the soul so please run far away from it.

Pray always to God to help you keep your soul and body for His glory. He will help you.

You are lovely, you are beautiful, you are a daughter of the KING OF KINGS. It doesn’t matter what culture tells you, people create culture and people are just people, God is GOD.

Dear Daughter, start out with being the BEST you, you can be. Ask what was I created for?

The Word of God sums it up, my young lady, "You are wonderfully and fearfully made." Hmmm... and made in His own image...

And you can do all things through Christ.

Arise and shine, for the glory of the LORD has risen upon you!!!

MONEY CANT BUY LOVE

Back in the day, every young girl wanted to marry her prince charming. A man that would love her and cherish her for life.  It appears that things are changing and many girls would rather just marry for money. It doesn’t matter how the man is treating her, she just loves the fact that he has lots of money.  ‘I will suffer any insults or beating’, she says. Well I have bad news for you,  ‘Money cant buy love’ and as a valuable lady you should not settle for anything less than someone who loves you. I have seen too many women who have married soley for money and are now in such unhappy marriages or have left them.

Listed below are some qualities you should look out for when you decide to settle down.

Character

You want someone who has a good character which is more than just his personality. His character is who is and the way he treats others. A man with a good character will love you through thick and thin. Even if you have difficulties through your marriage, like financial stresses, he wont beat you or abuse you emotionally. 

When you are ready to settle down look for a man that has strong character and who has a good name. A man who lacks character is really a weak man who cant make good decisions and is unstable. Look for a man who’s yes is yes and no is no and who is straightforward.

Justice

A man who is fair makes a good life long partner rather just focussing on his money. He will be able to look at things from all perspectives rather than one view. He will want to protect you because he believes in justice. He wont allow his mother or sisters to bully you because he treasures you.  A man with justice will not intimidate you with his money. Even if he has lots of money he will be fair to you.

Wisdom

If you want to marry a man purely for his money, he may lack wisdom. He may have money for a season and then it may run out quickly because he has not cared for it well. He will tend to hasty decisions if he lacks wisdom. Look for a man who has good judgement about all things including his money. He saves for a rainy day. He makes plans and has a vision.

Love

Love is the greatest gift of all and when it comes to finding your life partner this should be a priority over money. I am not talking just about love that you read about in romantic novels. I am talking about a commitment to love. A commitment to love you whether you are lean or whether you are plump.  

A commitment to love for better or for worse. 

A commitment to love through all seasons.

Your Part

As a valuable lady you have to do your part. You should be kind, gentle and loving and the right man will find you.

HOW TO AVOID BODY IMAGE PRESSURE

Do my thighs look fat in these trousers? I hate my face. I wish I had a smaller waist. I wish my nose was thinner. These are complaints that some girls put themselves through daily. Some really hate their bodies and go to extreme measures to change. 95% of people with eating disorders are between the ages of 12 and 25.

Some girls put themselves under unnecessary pressure as they compare their bodies to the ones they see in the media. Below are some points to consider if you struggle with body image pressure.

Know That You Are Unique

You are unique and you have to appreciate your individuality. You have to be happy with yourself and the way you are built. There is nobody on this planet that will ever be you so rather than comparing yourself to others, celebrate your individuality.  Even identical sisters have their own uniqueness.  Kehinde took a while to accept her uniqueness. She is a twin and had always compared herself. But one day she got a wake up call and realised that she was actually her own person.

Images Are Touched Up

Do you know that a photographer takes about 500 pictures and then looks for the best shot and touches them up for a magazine cover? Every imperfection in a magazine can be corrected. So those models don’t look like how they are presented in the magazines. Jade was shocked to see that her favourite celebrity didn’t actually have the perfect skin. Photos are touched up so consumers can buy the products.

Accept Yourself

The quicker you accept yourself and the body shape that you have, the less likely you will you will become obsessed with body image. A lot of celebrities undergo plastic surgery to change their natural features. Some are still not satisfied and still do further surgery. So what does this suggest? You may never be happy with your body even if you have the money to change it.

Adapt A Healthy Lifestyle

Perhaps you can do more exercise or eat more healthy food if you want to improve the shape of your body and lean out. Ngozi was not happy about her weight but instead of dieting she decided to change her eating habits and found that the excess weight dropped off.

Don’t Take Extreme Measures

Unfortunately some girls take body image pressures to the extreme and hardly eat. They look very lean and ill and sometimes this affects their internal organs. Please don’t let this be your story. Seek help if you think you have an eating disorder. The truth is no matter how we look, there will always be some imperfections on our bodies. That’s what makes us human.  But rather than complain about our imperfect body parts, let’s be grateful. There are so many people that would swap their so called perfect bodies for good health. That is more important.