An assertive
girl knows that the world is an ok place and that she is just as important as
anyone else in it. She also knows she has a right to success and happiness. How
does she know this?
Her Rights
She values
herself and knows her rights. She recognises her rights and protects them. She
understands her rights and knows that they are just as important as everyone
else’s. She knows she has a right to say NO without an explanation.
See examples
of her rights
•
Ask
for what she wants
•
Ask
for help
•
Have
ideas
•
Make
mistakes
•
Try
and try again
•
Change
her mind
•
Say
no sometimes
•
Complain
when it’s not fair
•
Be
proud when she does well
Respect
As assertive
girl believes that she deserves to be treated with respect and dignity at all
times and will not put up with bad behaviour from anyone. She knows that she
should not apologize for everything.
Her Needs
She has identified
her needs and wants. She doesn’t wait for others to recognize them because she
may wait forever. She knows her own
needs must be satisfied. But she knows that in order to get her needs met, it doesn’t
mean sacrificing the needs of others.
Responsibility
She knows
that everyone is responsible for their own behaviour. However, she doesn’t accept
responsibility for how people react to her assertive statement. She can only
control herself. She realises that as long as she is not violating someone else’s
needs she has every right to say what she wants.
Express Herself
An assertive
girl knows that she can express her thoughts and feelings in a healthy and positive
manner. She can allow herself to be angry but always respectful. She has a
right to say what’s on her mind but she does it in a way that protects the
other person’s feelings.
Control Emotions
An assertive
girl is able to control her emotions. She can stand up for herself to people who challenge her rights. She accepts criticism and also accepts compliments positively and graciously. An
assertive girl allows herself to make mistakes and asks for help.
Say NO
As assertive
girl knows when to say NO, when she needs to, without explanation.
No comments:
Post a Comment