A SUMMER CAMP WITH A VALUABLE DIFFERENCE

Do you want a summer camp that will challenge your daughter mentally, enhance her physical ability, promote creativity, encourage her to take risks and build her confidence? Valuable YOU Summer Camp is designed to equip girls with tools that will help them value themselves as treasure and present themselves effectively anywhere in the world.

Majestically Rare has teamed up with Teeky Arena & Events to provide a world class summer camp for girls age 10 -13.

Activities will include

Leadership Skills, Confidence Building, Communication in Action
Global Etiquette, Personal Grooming, Diction, Creative Writing, Hair Braiding
Public Speaking, Cake Dressing, Zumba & Salsa Dancing, Theatre Workshop, Fashion show

Benefits For Girls

·     Inspirational world-class presentations by talented facilitator who will challenge the girls thinking

·     Build confidence and broaden knowledge

·     Fun interactive sessions that will improve personal development

·     Educational worksheets at the end of each day for better understanding and grasp

·     Friendship building and bonding

·     Questions and answers sessions

·     Delicious refreshments will be served

·     And Dance Dance Dance….

By End of Valuable Summer Camp
Your daughter will expand her knowledge in Leadership - Visioning and Goal Setting -  Communication -  Performing -  Confidence Building -  Public Speaking - Creative Writing - Global Etiquette - Personal Values - Team Building. 

Valuable YOU Summer Camp fee is Only N36,000 per child for the entire period.  This includes activities, a journal workbook, daily lunch pack and certificate of participation.

DATES IN JULY are Mondays to Wednesdays from: 13^th -15^th , 20^th -22^nd , 27^th -29^th

TIME : 10am – 1pm

VENUE: Teeky Arena & Events, 19 Kunsela Road by Conoil Chisco Bus Stop, Lekki

To register please contact ritaokoyeis@gmail.com or rita@majesticallyrare.com

Register fast as spaces are limited

BUILDING CONFIDENT GIRLS THROUGH THEMED EVENTS

Raising Confident Girls is something that I am very passionate about and together with over 4000 members on facebook, we share ideas and suggestions on how to raise confident girls. One of my sister friend’s asked me to do a segment for her daughter’s 10th birthday on Raising Confident Girls and I accepted without hesitation.

Power Words

The fun started with pass the confident ball (instead of pass the parcel). When the music stopped, one girl at a time, pulled a note from the hat and described the confident word. Power words help build confidence. These are just a few power words that you should be using daily in your vocabulary; ‘amazing’, beautiful, delightful, majestic, fabulous, unique, spectacular, extraordinary, wow…'

Confident Spelling Bee Contest

Another way to boost confidence is to practice what you are good at. The more you practice the better you become. I decided to include a confident spelling bee quiz which the girls were very good at. I divided the girls into teams and they picked a word from the hat, spelt it and described the meaning.

Words of Affirmation Builds Confidence

Words of Affirmation are one of the 5 love languages and are excellent for building confidence. I asked the girls to describe the birthday girl and say something that they like about her. They mentioned fun, caring, intelligent, bold, friendly, daring, which to me means her parents are doing a great job in raising a confident girl.

Inner Confidence

During the birthday party, I shared some nuggets on inner confidence and the ability to believe and accept oneself. Inner confidence does not grow from corporate success, accolades, or our ability to speak in public. It’s not nurtured by who “sees” us, or the image we have built up around ourselves. It can only come from accepting yourself completely.

I also spoke to the girls about self love, self knowledge, positive talk and setting clear goals, as these help build self confidence.

The Runway
My session ended on a high with the girls running the catwalk. In role play fashion, the girls just flew in from Italy, LA, Monaco, Cape Town and Paris and came especially for the 10th birthday ( story telling -wink) and oh we mothers got to have fun too because moms just wanna have fun yeah.

The feedback from the family “You did a fantastic job and the girls loved it. It is such a great way to pass on a very important message”.

MOTHER AND DAUGHTER LOOKALIKE WINNERS

Winner of the Mother and Daughter lookalike competition from a group I founded and belong to on Facebook called Raising Confident Girls. There were several contestants but only one winner. 

Congrats to Mary and her daughter

WHY ARE YOU HERE?

No matter what circumstances in which you were born, you are not an accident. Everybody is here for a purpose and the sooner you discover why you are here, the more fulfilled your life will be. When we look at celebrities like Beyonce, Serena Williams and Tiger Woods, they discovered their ‘why’ very early. So can you. The points below will give some clues as to your WHY.

WHAT GIVES YOU ENERGY?

When you get up in the morning and you feel energised because you are about to do a certain task then you are closer to your “why”. And no, I am not talking about going on holidays. I am talking about ordinarily tasks that give you energy. For me, it’s planning an event and doing a publicity campaign. I just feel alive and I don’t come down from my high energy until the event is successfully over.

That wasn’t always the case. I use to work in a bank for 5 years. It drained me and I didn’t feel fulfilled at all. Once I resigned, I felt a big weight off my shoulders and then I went to the BBC for 8 years doing what I love. And now I work for myself and I love what I do in marketing and communications.

WHAT ARE YOU GOOD AT?

The quickest way to discover what you are good at is to brainstorm. Simply write down all the things you are good at and grade them on a scale of 1-10. I am creative and I enjoy expressing myself on paper. It takes me about 10 minutes or less to write a blog. All the ideas just flow out. Some people find it difficult to get one line on paper. Writing is just not their gift. When you are good at doing something it takes much less time than someone who doesn’t have the gift. You just do it effortlessly.

My 14 year old daughter sings. She sings everywhere around the house. She hasn’t decided yet whether she wants to take it up as a career yet or go into business like her mama. But she will go far if she develops her gift in singing.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO FOR FREE?

There are things that we just love to do and if money was no issue we would do them for free. That will lead you, closer to your why. Many successful people were doing what they do for free before they turned it into a career because it is their passion.

YOU ARE A GIFT TO THE WORLD

Most people don’t realise how valuable they are or their ‘why’. We often take each other for granted until it’s too late. But don’t worry about that just focus on your why and you will get there.

Just remember that you are a gift to the world. Find your purpose and find your ‘why’ and don’t let anyone else stop you.

SHINE YOUR LIGHT

How we treat others is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. When we do good to others then it makes our light shine brightly.  I have listed a few tips that can help us.

Be kind

Being kind is one of the easiest things to do but a lot of people struggle in this area. One of the reasons is because we often think about our needs first. Human beings are naturally selfish. How can we be kind? We can treat others in the way that we want to be treated. We can think about other’s needs before our own. We can look at ways to bless other people. We can go out of our way to compliment others.

Be thoughtful

Another way we can shine our light, is to be thoughtful. Think about others. Do we remember people on their birthdays? Do we call people randomly just to ask how they are doing or do we only call them when we want something from that person? There are so many people that are lonely and a quick call from us, could make their day. Start today and think of a few people you should call. You will be surprised at how happy it will make them feel.

Forgive others

Is there someone that needs your forgiveness? We have to forgive others quickly because it hinders a lot of things in our life especially prayers. We have to accept people for their strengths and flaws and look at making peace. If we harbour unforgiveness it only weighs us down and causes us to be bitter and sick. Sometimes people do things to us that are not rational and sometimes we will never understand it but we have to forgive anyway.

Be helpful

There are so many people that need our help. Help is needed in communities, in our churches, in our schools. How can you help someone today? You can visit a motherless home or an old people’s community. You can take a break from your daily routine and just find ways to help others. Why not join a group that’s focuses on helping people. It is better to give than receive.

Speak nicely about others

It’s so easy to speak about negative things in others but the truth is we all have flaws. I always say to my children, "if you haven’t got anything nice to say to each other, don’t say anything at all".

Always look for the good in others.

Tools to Building Self Confidence

Building Self Confidence is all about fixing your belief system by getting rid of the limiting beliefs you have and replacing them with ones that allow you to reach your full potential.  

Why It's Important
It is very important to build self confidence because it gives you freedom to make better choices, you can be yourself, you will be happier, you will find more opportunities and generally have success in all areas of your life.

Why Do People Lack Confidence
Many people lack self confidence, either because they don’t feel good enough, they are afraid of criticism, they under estimate their strengths or they over estimate the strengths of others. The biggest destroyer of building self confidence is fear. 

I was delighted to speak to teens recently about building self confidence. Below are some nuggets that I shared.

Love Yourself

This is the most important ingredient to building self confidence. You have to love yourself, which means accept yourself. Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t say negative things. Treat yourself the way you would treat your best friends.  You are a gift to the world and your being here is not by accident.

Gain Knowledge

Knowledge is power. The more you learn, the more confident you will feel about yourself. Discover your strengths and weakness and focus more on your strengths. Leaders are readers, so if you want to gain more knowledge and confidence, then you should aim to read at least one book a month.

Think Positively

As a person thinks so they are. You need to train yourself to think positively. This is not an easy step but it takes discipline. You can start by eliminating words such as “I cant” and replace them with words like “I can”. You will be surprised at how your confidence will increase by just being positive.

Assert Yourself

Everyone deserves an equal place in this world. Nobody is better than anyone. You need to stand up for your rights and have a voice. You should treat others fairly and expect the same back in return. Don’t be aggressive, where you demand your rights at the expense of hurting others. Also don’t be passive where you let others walk all over you. Be balanced and speak up when you need to.

Keep Good Friends

Friends are very critical in building self confidence. They can either lift you up or bring you down so you have to choose wisely. Don’t tolerate friendships that are toxic. This includes behaviour which is controlling, manipulative and destructive.  Stay away from bullies or those with jealous tendencies. Good friendships are normally light and you don’t feel like you are in a battlefield. They are also warm, kind, honest and respectful. Note – It is better to have fewer friends or none at all, than to have lots of friends that make you doubt yourself.

Always remember to love and be yourself and the rest should follow.

Please feel free to leave a comment below and share your experiences of building self confidence.