TIPS ON CONFIDENCE

These are tips I share with girls at my workshops and summer camps. People feel free to

share them with your daughters, god daughters, nieces, cousins or even yourself.  Remember practice makes perfect

•        Look good: This goes without saying but it doesn’t mean you should spend all day looking at yourself in the mirror but it does mean that you should make an effort to look after yourself. Groom yourself, brush your teeth properly, smell fresh and tidy your hair. These are the basics.

•        Smile it’s contagious: Smiling attracts more people to you and makes you more approachable. I am convinced that people that smile get more favours than people who don’t. cynical 

•        Positive self talk: Avoid negative talk, don’t say I cant rather say I can, I will, I am – say ‘I AM SOMEBODY’

•        Maintain good friendships: Everyone feels better when they surround themselves with people who make them feel good. Don’t punish yourself and be around anyone who doesn’t value you or is mean to you

•        Know your strengths and weaknesses but focus on your strengths. Develop your strengths. If you are good at singing why not use that gift and join the choir. If you are good at styling hair why not try it out on your friends.

•        Do things you enjoy often like dancing, singing, cooking. Nowadays children including my own spend too much time on gadgets during the holidays. Draw or make cakes or waffles. Do something different rather spend all day on an iphone or PS3.

•        Be grateful: Whenever you are feeling down, list all the things you are grateful for. It will help you feel more appreciative of your life. There are lots of young people through no fault of their own, that don’t have some of the things you have.

•        Give back: Think of ways to bless others. Summer holidays is a good time to spring clean your room and find all the things including nice clothes and gadgets and give them out to others, less fortunate.

•        Speak up and be noticed: Your opinions matter. Say what’s on your mind and say it fast but always be respectful

•        Challenge yourself: What can you do this summer that would be a victory for you at the end of the holidays? Write short stories. Make a video. Do something.

•        Celebrate victories: There is nothing wrong with giving yourself a pat on the back when you have worked hard. I just concluded a wedding and I worked really hard. The event was a success and the client was satisfied. I am celebrating my victory by taking a break and treating myself to a body massage.

•        Act Confident: How does a confident person act?  A confident person acts like they matter. They make no apologies for existing. They walk tall with their head up and they smile. If you are still feeling hesitant fake it till you make it – Just act it. It will come naturally if you keep practising the above tips

•        Know where your true confidence comes – God. And know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are unique. There is no duplicate of you. Just you, so accept and enjoy yourself. You really matter.

•        Dance like no one is watching.