SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GOODNESS

Surround yourself with goodness. Surround yourself with 

people who hold you up. There are people out there that love

you " Michelle Obama

BEAUTY AND HIGH SELF ESTEEM

LOVING YOURSELF

Loving yourself means accepting yourself for who you are.

• Loving yourself means not being afraid of making mistakes and being bold enough to say sorry when you are in the wrong.

• Loving yourself means you can have moments of childlikeness and playfulness without caring about what others think.

• When you love yourself deeply those jealous traits wont rare its ugly head because you will know who's you are and who you are.

• When you love yourself you will accept others too knowing that just as you are not perfect, they are not perfect also.

• When you love yourself, you will look for the best in others and not the worst.

• When you love yourself completely, you will be less involved in drama, knowing that you are only responsible for yourself and your own outcomes.

• When you love yourself you will accept that not everyone will be your best friend and you will only seek to be close with those who have your best interest at heart.

• When you love yourself its ok when some people dont like you. Not everyone is going to like you. Some people havent even figured out why they dont like you but its ok.

• When you love yourself completely, you will seek out your purpose and figure out the reason for your being here. And then you will walk confidently in your purpose. 

• When you love yourself completely, you will know that you are indeed a gift to the world and you should make no apologies for being you. THE END.

WISDOM 2016

Happy New Year to all my readers. I truly hope you get this in the New Year and dont have any expectations from anyone. 

WHAT IMPRESSES YOU?

Recently I gave a talk to teens girls in Lagos titled ‘’ All that Glitters in not Gold’’ and would like to share some of my thoughts, to you my readers. I talked about impressions and things that should and shouldnt impress us. 

See my list below

Don’t Be Impressed By Good Looks

There is usually a general assumption that if a person is good looking, then they are a good person, right? Wrong! There are good looking people that have terrible characters and are very mean. It is important to get to know people properly before jumping into friendships. Good looking doesn’t necessarily add up to a good person.

Don’t Be Impressed By Money

The love of money is the root of evil. This is the truth. The moment we start to love money, we may start compromising on our values. Don’t strive for money. Strive for success and the money they say, will follow.

Don’t Be Impressed by Material Possession such as cars, houses, designer bags, shoes, hair, phones. They only create short term happiness. The more we crave, the less we are satisfied. How many clothes can really make us happy? Be deeper than your material possessions. They don’t make you a better person.

Don’t Be Impressed By Followers

People that follow us on social media are not real friends so don’t get impressed if someone has 1000 followers and you don’t. Maybe the person is sharing something worth value to the audience but it doesn’t make them better than you. Be unique don’t get depressed if you don’t have followers. Just be yourself.

Don’t Be Impressed By Gifts

There is nothing like a free lunch. If you receive gifts constantly from one person when it’s not your birthday or an occasion to celebrate, then watch out. If you feel uncomfortable, kindly return to sender before you end up compromising your values.

Don’t Be Impressed By Pride

Pride comes before a fall and its one of the thing’s the Lord detests. Don’t be impressed by a girl that shows pride. It’s a bad personality trait and one that can take a life time to cure, if at all.

So what should we be impressed by?

Be Impressed By Humility

A humble girl is down to earth and open. She is not selfish and is always looking for ways to help others. She is kind and loving and if she does something to offend others, she is quick to say sorry. 

Be Impressed By Generosity

A generous girl thinks about others. She is a giver and will always receive a good reward for her good heart. It’s a biblical principle. Caution! Don’t give to receive though. Give because you genuinely want to help others.

Be Impressed By A Girl Who Fears God

A girl that fears God will always know her human limitations. She knows that her life depends on HIM and not herself. She knows that God is watching her and therefore lives with a conscious. This is a girl to be impressed by.

Be Impressed By A Girl With Purpose

This is a girl who knows herself. She has strong self-awareness. She knows her strengths and her weaknesses. She seeks to improve what she can about herself and purses things in life that strengthen her natural gifts. She knows why she was born and spends her life doing those things that she was purposed to do.

Be Impressed By A Girl Who Work’s Hard

A girl that works hard will receive great success. She will be sought after by the best and not ordinary folk. All that she does is excellent. The rewards of her hard work are evident. She does her best in her areas of strength. She is a class act.

Be Impressed By A Girl Who Loves To Read

A girl who reads is a leader. She is probably a prefect in school. Once she leaves school and starts work, she will be promoted rapidly because she is smart and sharp. A girl who reads has good communication skills and can express herself very well.

And Finally Be Impressed By A Girl Who Has Inner Confidence. She knows her value.  She doesn’t need to tell the world how good she is because inside she knows who she is. She respects herself and is also respected by others. A girl with strong inner confidence is just herself and accepts who she is. There is no fronting, forming or pretense.

So that's my list, what impresses you? Please share your thoughts below…

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

GIRL ADVICE 101 FROM RCG ON FACEBOOK... PART TWO

Raising Confident Girls is a growing movement by mums, aunties, grandmas, god mothers or any woman who wants to raise confident girls. Our aim is to engage our members to find solutions to the growing problems of Raising Confident Girls in the 21^st century. Today we have over 9000 members in the group and we discuss every topic imaginable for girls.

This is Part 2 of a question we asked earlier in the year “What advice do you want to give young girls?” and the response was overwhelming.

If you are a young girl, please take your time to read the advice below, given by several women in this group across the globe, as I believe it will help YOU.

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Life is never a rush. Always try to focus on only the good and the positive, and whenever in doubt, don't be scared to talk to someone, sharing our thoughts, pains and doubts is very uplifting.

Enjoy your childhood, darling. You will be an adult for far too long.

There is time for everything. Concentrate on your studies for now.

Seek first the kingdom of God and everything good WILL come your way.

Avoid distractions maximise your precious time ,pls.

Try and discover the special gift God deposited in you and live it by doing what you are most passionate about, do not let anyone tell you that you cannot achieve your dreams...you are your only competitor!!

Never cut yourself the short end of the slack. Everybody is a variable you my dear are the only constant

Be sure of who you are and have some respect and dignity for yourself

Impossibility only exist in the dictionary.....FOCUS is the key word.

Education is very important. Take your academics serious, be smart and intelligent. Let your beauty go with your brains and don't be afraid to show people how smart you are. God bless darling.

My dear, get up and fire on. The world is waiting for your great YOU.

Be yourself, Its your race, so run at your own pace

Don't joke with God

Be focused .Love God, love yourself and others. There is time for everything.

Be dedicated to God. Be focus and position yourself to achieve your goal on earth

Fear God!

Don't ever lose focus

Don't throw away something that you will later regret in life

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it's probably time to change the people around you

Be yourself, darling. Always.

Try and travel round the world

Friendship is not by force but by choice. Make sure you don't waste your precious time with anyone who does not value you. Look for a 'watch word' for yourself in the bible. It helps make you focus and secured.

Be true to yourself and to God!

Hold on to God

Put your trust in God

Put God first in all u do and be itself.

Be yourself and have faith

Never give up on you dreams.

Even people you love will hurt you... Forgive easily, keep your heart light and be wise in dealing with people

Be strong and trust in God

The sky is bright' shinning for you.

Never stand on the way to people’s success, then shall you have good success.

Be focused and determined, Above all put your trust in God

Never give people the cause to look down on u. Believe in yourself and be the best you can...because with God, all things are possible.

In everything....be G.O.D- God, Original, Determined

You can be all you want to be if you learn to put ALL your confidence in your creator. Be patient to wait on Him for the actualization of your dreams, when the need arises? Always BE YOURSELF and mingle with like minds.

Stay focused by grabbing God

May your creed in life be to please God and receive God's love, and the love of a man that loves God, he will do good by you. About people around learn to respect everyone and guard your heart, let the Holy Spirit be your best friend. Let him teach you all things. You will be okay. God is watching over you.

Say, Thank you Lord!

Stay in school and with God

You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. When not sure, ask questions. Alternatively the Bible is your guide, read it, understand it and practice what is in it.

Love God, Love your neighbour as yourself, love yourself and aim to be the best u can be

I say to my children to ask themselves this question at all times: If my Mum walked in on me, will I be proud of what I'm doing at that moment?

And some shared quotes....