20 Personal Branding Tips for Girls

20 Personal Branding Tips for Girls

Building a great reputation can start from an early age. Here our few tips that can aid girls along the way

1. If you want to get a reputation for being brilliant, then you actually have to be brilliant.

2. You cant build a reputation on what you are going to do. Just do it.

3. “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is false.

4. Keep your promises. Be Reliable. Be Dependable.

5. Don’t do normal if you have a reputation to hold.

6. Don’t waffle. When you tell a story. Make sure your point is made in three short sentences.

7. Earning a good reputation is more difficult and more important than earning good money.

8. Contribute. To the conversation, to the cause, to the kitty.

9. Live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you, no one would believe them.

10.     Before you point fingers, make sure your hands are clean.

11.    If you make a mistake, own up. Do it quickly.

12.      Don’t ignore people. If someone wants your attention, give them a little and then make sure they earn the rest. 

13.     Choose your friends carefully. You can’t have a clean reputation when you hang out with messy people.

14.      Get up, dress up, show up, step up. Live outside your comfort zone.

15.      When you greet someone, look them in the eye. It speaks volumes for your self-worth.

16.       Don’t talk about what you’re going to do. Actions speak louder than words.

17.         Listen. Make the person you’re with feel like they’re the only one in the room.

18.             People will never forget the first impression you made.

19.             People will never forget how you made them feel

20.             Don’t post anything online that you might regret in later years. 

Can you think of any more to add to this list?

BE CAREFUL WITH WHAT YOU SHARE

So I came across a photo on Instagram of a young girl who was clothed with not much left to the imagination. Someone actually shared it with me and I know the family very well. I am sure her parents would have a fit if they saw the photo. If I was close enough to her I would say, ''Sweetie, I don’t want to spoil your fun BUT

·      Posting semi nude photos of yourself is not cool

·      Showing too much flesh is trashy not classy

·      It only takes one person to cut and paste the photo and then it can go viral

·      Have self-confidence and don’t let the world see your nakedness

·      Even if you block your posts from adults, we may still get to discover it like I did

·      What if you see your photo in a porn magazine?

·      Loving yourself means respecting yourself

·      Think about your family

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GOODNESS

Surround yourself with goodness. Surround yourself with 

people who hold you up. There are people out there that love

you " Michelle Obama

BEAUTY AND HIGH SELF ESTEEM

LOVING YOURSELF

Loving yourself means accepting yourself for who you are.

• Loving yourself means not being afraid of making mistakes and being bold enough to say sorry when you are in the wrong.

• Loving yourself means you can have moments of childlikeness and playfulness without caring about what others think.

• When you love yourself deeply those jealous traits wont rare its ugly head because you will know who's you are and who you are.

• When you love yourself you will accept others too knowing that just as you are not perfect, they are not perfect also.

• When you love yourself, you will look for the best in others and not the worst.

• When you love yourself completely, you will be less involved in drama, knowing that you are only responsible for yourself and your own outcomes.

• When you love yourself you will accept that not everyone will be your best friend and you will only seek to be close with those who have your best interest at heart.

• When you love yourself its ok when some people dont like you. Not everyone is going to like you. Some people havent even figured out why they dont like you but its ok.

• When you love yourself completely, you will seek out your purpose and figure out the reason for your being here. And then you will walk confidently in your purpose. 

• When you love yourself completely, you will know that you are indeed a gift to the world and you should make no apologies for being you. THE END.

WISDOM 2016

Happy New Year to all my readers. I truly hope you get this in the New Year and dont have any expectations from anyone. 

WHAT IMPRESSES YOU?

Recently I gave a talk to teens girls in Lagos titled ‘’ All that Glitters in not Gold’’ and would like to share some of my thoughts, to you my readers. I talked about impressions and things that should and shouldnt impress us. 

See my list below

Don’t Be Impressed By Good Looks

There is usually a general assumption that if a person is good looking, then they are a good person, right? Wrong! There are good looking people that have terrible characters and are very mean. It is important to get to know people properly before jumping into friendships. Good looking doesn’t necessarily add up to a good person.

Don’t Be Impressed By Money

The love of money is the root of evil. This is the truth. The moment we start to love money, we may start compromising on our values. Don’t strive for money. Strive for success and the money they say, will follow.

Don’t Be Impressed by Material Possession such as cars, houses, designer bags, shoes, hair, phones. They only create short term happiness. The more we crave, the less we are satisfied. How many clothes can really make us happy? Be deeper than your material possessions. They don’t make you a better person.

Don’t Be Impressed By Followers

People that follow us on social media are not real friends so don’t get impressed if someone has 1000 followers and you don’t. Maybe the person is sharing something worth value to the audience but it doesn’t make them better than you. Be unique don’t get depressed if you don’t have followers. Just be yourself.

Don’t Be Impressed By Gifts

There is nothing like a free lunch. If you receive gifts constantly from one person when it’s not your birthday or an occasion to celebrate, then watch out. If you feel uncomfortable, kindly return to sender before you end up compromising your values.

Don’t Be Impressed By Pride

Pride comes before a fall and its one of the thing’s the Lord detests. Don’t be impressed by a girl that shows pride. It’s a bad personality trait and one that can take a life time to cure, if at all.

So what should we be impressed by?

Be Impressed By Humility

A humble girl is down to earth and open. She is not selfish and is always looking for ways to help others. She is kind and loving and if she does something to offend others, she is quick to say sorry. 

Be Impressed By Generosity

A generous girl thinks about others. She is a giver and will always receive a good reward for her good heart. It’s a biblical principle. Caution! Don’t give to receive though. Give because you genuinely want to help others.

Be Impressed By A Girl Who Fears God

A girl that fears God will always know her human limitations. She knows that her life depends on HIM and not herself. She knows that God is watching her and therefore lives with a conscious. This is a girl to be impressed by.

Be Impressed By A Girl With Purpose

This is a girl who knows herself. She has strong self-awareness. She knows her strengths and her weaknesses. She seeks to improve what she can about herself and purses things in life that strengthen her natural gifts. She knows why she was born and spends her life doing those things that she was purposed to do.

Be Impressed By A Girl Who Work’s Hard

A girl that works hard will receive great success. She will be sought after by the best and not ordinary folk. All that she does is excellent. The rewards of her hard work are evident. She does her best in her areas of strength. She is a class act.

Be Impressed By A Girl Who Loves To Read

A girl who reads is a leader. She is probably a prefect in school. Once she leaves school and starts work, she will be promoted rapidly because she is smart and sharp. A girl who reads has good communication skills and can express herself very well.

And Finally Be Impressed By A Girl Who Has Inner Confidence. She knows her value.  She doesn’t need to tell the world how good she is because inside she knows who she is. She respects herself and is also respected by others. A girl with strong inner confidence is just herself and accepts who she is. There is no fronting, forming or pretense.

So that's my list, what impresses you? Please share your thoughts below…

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

GIRL ADVICE 101 FROM RCG ON FACEBOOK... PART TWO

Raising Confident Girls is a growing movement by mums, aunties, grandmas, god mothers or any woman who wants to raise confident girls. Our aim is to engage our members to find solutions to the growing problems of Raising Confident Girls in the 21^st century. Today we have over 9000 members in the group and we discuss every topic imaginable for girls.

This is Part 2 of a question we asked earlier in the year “What advice do you want to give young girls?” and the response was overwhelming.

If you are a young girl, please take your time to read the advice below, given by several women in this group across the globe, as I believe it will help YOU.

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Life is never a rush. Always try to focus on only the good and the positive, and whenever in doubt, don't be scared to talk to someone, sharing our thoughts, pains and doubts is very uplifting.

Enjoy your childhood, darling. You will be an adult for far too long.

There is time for everything. Concentrate on your studies for now.

Seek first the kingdom of God and everything good WILL come your way.

Avoid distractions maximise your precious time ,pls.

Try and discover the special gift God deposited in you and live it by doing what you are most passionate about, do not let anyone tell you that you cannot achieve your dreams...you are your only competitor!!

Never cut yourself the short end of the slack. Everybody is a variable you my dear are the only constant

Be sure of who you are and have some respect and dignity for yourself

Impossibility only exist in the dictionary.....FOCUS is the key word.

Education is very important. Take your academics serious, be smart and intelligent. Let your beauty go with your brains and don't be afraid to show people how smart you are. God bless darling.

My dear, get up and fire on. The world is waiting for your great YOU.

Be yourself, Its your race, so run at your own pace

Don't joke with God

Be focused .Love God, love yourself and others. There is time for everything.

Be dedicated to God. Be focus and position yourself to achieve your goal on earth

Fear God!

Don't ever lose focus

Don't throw away something that you will later regret in life

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it's probably time to change the people around you

Be yourself, darling. Always.

Try and travel round the world

Friendship is not by force but by choice. Make sure you don't waste your precious time with anyone who does not value you. Look for a 'watch word' for yourself in the bible. It helps make you focus and secured.

Be true to yourself and to God!

Hold on to God

Put your trust in God

Put God first in all u do and be itself.

Be yourself and have faith

Never give up on you dreams.

Even people you love will hurt you... Forgive easily, keep your heart light and be wise in dealing with people

Be strong and trust in God

The sky is bright' shinning for you.

Never stand on the way to people’s success, then shall you have good success.

Be focused and determined, Above all put your trust in God

Never give people the cause to look down on u. Believe in yourself and be the best you can...because with God, all things are possible.

In everything....be G.O.D- God, Original, Determined

You can be all you want to be if you learn to put ALL your confidence in your creator. Be patient to wait on Him for the actualization of your dreams, when the need arises? Always BE YOURSELF and mingle with like minds.

Stay focused by grabbing God

May your creed in life be to please God and receive God's love, and the love of a man that loves God, he will do good by you. About people around learn to respect everyone and guard your heart, let the Holy Spirit be your best friend. Let him teach you all things. You will be okay. God is watching over you.

Say, Thank you Lord!

Stay in school and with God

You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. When not sure, ask questions. Alternatively the Bible is your guide, read it, understand it and practice what is in it.

Love God, Love your neighbour as yourself, love yourself and aim to be the best u can be

I say to my children to ask themselves this question at all times: If my Mum walked in on me, will I be proud of what I'm doing at that moment?

And some shared quotes....

VALUABLE YOU COMES TO VGC

Majestically Rare has teamed up with VGC Club  to provide a world class Christmas blast camp for boys and girls age 9 -14. Valuable YOU Christmas blast is designed to equip boys and girls with tools that will help them stand out anywhere in the world. The program has been well thought out to give your children an experience they will never forget.

ACTIVITIES WILL INCLUDE:
Essential Leadership Skills, Confidence Building, Communication in Action, Global Etiquette, Tug of War, Outdoor Sport Games

HOST: Rita Okoye aka RiRi is the CEO of Majestically Rare Limited, a marketing consulting firm based in Lagos. Rita is the founder of a movement called Raising Confident Girls

Guest speakers will also being sharing life lessons and knowledge to the children

DATES IN DECEMBER are Mondays to Wednesdays from: 21, 22, 23

TIME : 10am – 1pm

VENUE: 

VGC Club, Road 22a, VGC Lagos.

Flat FEE: 

N10,000 for the entire experience. Spaces are limited.

Click here to register

Majestically Rare has teamed up with VGC Club  to provide a world class Christmas blast camp for boys and girls age 9 -14. Valuable YOU Christmas blast is designed to equip boys and girls with tools that will help them value themselves as treasure and present themselves effectively anywhere in the world. The program has been well thought out to give your children an experience they will never forget.

ACTIVITIES WILL INCLUDE:
Essential Leadership Skills, Confidence Building, Communication in Action, Global Etiquette, Tug of War, Outdoor Sport Games

HOST: Rita Okoye aka RiRi is the CEO of Majestically Rare Limited, a marketing consulting firm based in Lagos. Rita is the founder of a movement called Raising Confident Girls

Guest speakers will also being sharing life lessons and knowledge to the children

DATES IN DECEMBER are Mondays to Wednesdays from: 21, 22, 23

TIME : 10am – 1pm

VENUE: 

VGC Club, Road 22a, VGC Lagos.

Flat FEE: 

N10,000 for the entire experience. Spaces are limited.

Click here to register

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or pick up Registration form at VGC Club

ALL THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLD - EVENT

VALUE YOUR SHADE

A lot of dark girls struggle with accepting their natural shade because light skin is often considered more pretty. Young dark girls that have these struggles may be tempted to bleach their skin color when they are older. I don’t advise that because apart from the health risks, nothing beats loving yourself. You have to love everything about yourself and see your dark skin as a blessing.

See what Kelly Rowland had to say about struggling with being dark skin when she was younger.

''I remember I went through a period where I didn't embrace my 'chocolatiness.' I don't know if that's a word, but I didn't embrace my chocolate lifestyle. Just being a chocolate, lovely brown-skin girl and being proud of that''.

I remember Tina Knowles, Bey mom and I, I remember being out in the sun and I was trying to shield myself from the sun and she said, 'Are you crazy?' She said ' You are absolutely gorgeous,' and she just told me how beautiful I was and how rare chocolate is and how gorgeous the skin is, all of this stuff. And I was just like 'Yeah!' Like a light went off. So between her and my mother and then me sitting out in the sun a little more, just to be a little more chocolate. You just embrace it. You embrace everything that you are as a woman, even your flaws too. '' 

MAKE SURE HE LOVES YOU MORE

I was watching a recent interview of Rihanna on Oprah. She mentioned that her grandma had passed away (RIP) but one of the advises her grandma gave her was to marry a man who loves her more and really dotes on her. As they say in Naija (I go die love). Her grandma said that women are naturally more nurturing and caring and if you find a man who has those natural characteristics then you will enjoy your marriage more.

I agree with Rihanna’s grandmother. I want my daughter to marry a God fearing man, who loves her to bits, just like her daddy loves me. If she finds such a man, she will not find it difficult to submit and she will have a peaceful marriage. 

Jacqueline Ali, the founder of Women Empowering Women reminded me that the bible says that men should love their wives as Christ loves the church. No where did it instruct women to love their husbands. We were instructed to submit to them. However when a man loves God first, he will love himself and lay down his life for his wife.

I know some women are strong on doing everything for the man,  paying for everything and treating him like a helpless child.  I say kudos to you but I am old fashioned, so if my daughter’s future husband wants to lead, then he should go ahead, because he is the head of the home. She should just make sure she caters to him and serves him because most men like service as a love language. I would also advise her to never neglect her career and have something that gives her purpose.

I was told by several women including my mom on my hen night over 16 years ago, to start as you mean to finish. They warned me to not be a super woman and I took note. ''Otherwise'' they said, ''You will be the one running up and down trying to keep your home, while your husband is relaxing. And you will age faster than him''.

In the long run, everything can be found in God's Word. He who finds a wife, finds a good thing. Not someone to abuse and mistreat. He who loves his wife, loves himself.  

We as mothers and fathers with boys, have a responsibility to raise responsible sons, who will have uttermost respect for their wives, so that indeed they can love their wives as Christ loves the church. So help us God.